Choosing a mate – whether for a day or the rest of your days – can be a tricky proposition!
Here are some tips & insights to run through you mind when considering whether or not the human you are looking at is “right for you”.
First – start with yourself!
How well do you know you?
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Clear vision and values, knowing WHO you are.
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Thoroughly defined requirements and needs, knowing WHAT you want.
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Effective plan, knowing HOW to get what you want, including strategies for scouting, sorting, and screening.
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Taking personal responsibility to be a grown-up Chooser. Listening to your Inner Kid’s excitement, but choosing from your Big Girl intelligence.
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Being a self-reliant, successful single, available to attract an equally self-reliant Other.
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Personal Power/Assertiveness — having boundaries, allowing disengagement, saying “no” to what you don’t want, taking responsibility for getting what you do want.
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Becoming ready and available for commitment, or knowing you aren’t.