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Turn on Delight!
© Roz Van Meter
Excerpt: MAP THEM ALLIGATORS!
No one else has the right to define you. But if you aren't getting
a kick out of life, ask yourself if your non-delight attitudes are
working to get you wnat you want? You may answer, "On the job,
yes. But in my personal life, not really."
Did you ever see this old poster:
When you are up to your ass in alligators,
it's hard to remember that you came to drain the swamp.
I suggest you back away from the alligators, retreat to the shade of a tree, and contemplate where your particular alligators are. Once you've mapped them, it's so much easier to avoid them.
Take a few minutes to list a few of your own personal delight-busters. I am sure you have perfected some by now—everyone has. Perhaps you learned to define worry as "being a responsible adult," stuffiness as "maturity." It's what society taught you, but so what? You're educable. You can open up your definitions to include some other, happier stuff.
From the first grade on, your progress in life has been measured by your increase in maturity. Not expressing your true feelings was called maturity. Controlling your mirth in class was a sign of increasing maturity.
Well, for my money, the greatest hallmark of genuine emotional maturity is the willingness to take responsibility for one's own actions, life, and happiness. This is different from pseudo-maturity, which often is the repressions of real feelings, resulting in conformist behavior based on a fear of not being accepted.
What many people call "silly" is often the joyous, uninhibited outpouring of pleasure and fun. Let's think of it as appropriate maturity.
The key word, obviously, is "appropriate." It isn't appropriate to squirt the CEO with a water gun at the board meeting. But it might be supremely appropriate to squirt your mate at a picnic if he is similarly armed and dangerous. (Wouldn't the kids love that? Better have some squirt guns for them too.)
Of course you will set the example of dignity during a church service. But afterward, how about an outing of bubble-blowing in the park, or climbing on the bronze animals in a kiddy sculpture garden, or taking turns telling spooky stories complete with sound effects and flashlights under your chins.
It is the Child in us that is sensual, that slurps a pear or kisses a lover with savor. If in the service of "maturity" you've locked your poor Inner Child in a closet, for heaven's sake let the kid out! You'll be more lovable, more loved, and more loving, to others and to yourself.
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